Meditation on Mortality

A quiet meditation on mortality, presence, and the pursuit of a life lived fully — without denial, dread, or distraction.

Between denial and dread of mortality lies a quieter path where mortality is neither ignored nor feared but held gently.

Arun Kumar

Summary: This reflective essay explores the quiet tension between mortality and mindful living. We contemplate the inevitability of death, the pursuit of presence, and the challenge of holding mortality as a companion — not a burden — while seeking grace, purpose, and equanimity in everyday life.

(1) I knew I was going to die tomorrow, or if not tomorrow, then some other day not far behind. Still, I went to the Pickleball court. I played a game, played it well. I dinked with precision, moved with purpose, and even won a few games. In those moments, that was what mattered: the rhythm of the rally, the arc of the ball, the quiet triumph of presence. And for a while, mortality stepped back; its shadow drawn behind the curtain, where it waits with infinite patience for its turn.

But I know it will return. It always does.

(2) It is a quiet dilemma to honor the truth of my mortality while still embracing all that the present offers: the engagements life extends, and the fleeting eternity each moment can become.

(3) And yet, I do not wish to lose sight of mortality. I do not want to drown its quiet presence beneath a relentless tide of tasks — a mile-long to-do list waiting through every hour. I do not want an endless sequence of activities to become a forcefield against the truth of impermanence. Nor do I seek a drug that numbs the brain and, with it, the mind. I do not want to be lulled into believing I am immortal, that my fleeting presence here somehow stretches into permanence. There is something in that approach — something in that denial — that feels deeply untrue.

(4) Mortality is not an intruder but an integral part of my being — an irrevocable truth woven into the fabric of my life. To suffocate it by conscious effort would be to sever something essential, as if amputating a limb with my own hands. I want its presence near me — in my thoughts, in my breath, in the quiet rooms of my consciousness.

(5) A life lived without the awareness of mortality feels, in some ineffable way, incomplete. Whether that sense of incompleteness is rooted in some absolute truth or it is just me, I cannot say. I don’t even know if there is an answer. Something that feels like an answer flashes across my mind like a meteor streaking through the night sky — fleeting, and gone before I can find the words to inscribe it and return to them the future.

(6) As I ponder why a life lived without the awareness of mortality might feel less fully lived, I find myself entangled in a deeper question: how do we measure the relative worth of two lives — one lived with the active cognizance of mortality, and one without it? For that matter, how do we weigh the life of someone who spends their days contentedly watching television against that of Einstein, if both feel fulfilled in their own way? Is happiness or contentment the yardstick? Is it the capacity to touch another’s life, to leave behind a legacy, to wrestle with meaning of the universe, to feel the existential angst? What, if anything, makes one life more “well lived” than another, especially when each is lived within the bounds of its own truth?

(7) Whatever the answer may be, we should not let mortality cast a shadow over the simple pleasures of life — a glass of wine savored slowly, a good movie that stirs the heart, a game of Pickleball laced with laughter and conversation, or a song that lifts the soul. At the same time, we must be wary of the other extreme: allowing the constant awareness of mortality to paralyze us, to drain life of its spontaneity and joy. Between denial and dread mortality lies a quieter path where mortality is neither ignored nor feared, but held gently, like a companion who reminds us to live more fully.

(8) I am certain there is a middle path — one that honors mortality without being consumed by it. A balance is possible, I believe, between the awareness of life’s impermanence and the rhythms of a life fully lived. Finding that balance is a quest for many to embark.

(9) I am certain there is a middle path that works — a way to hold mortality in view without letting it eclipse the living. I know the balance is possible: between the quiet cognition of death and the steady unfolding of a functional life. Sometimes, the words — how could it be done — hover at the tip of my tongue, and for a fleeting moment, I feel as though I know the answer, as if I’ve glimpsed the elusive magic. But the expression slips away, just beyond reach, like a dream dissolving in the light.

(10) Perhaps the answer lies in befriending mortality — not seeing it as an adversary lurking in wait, but as a quiet companion walking beside me. Not a threat, but a presence. Maybe it’s found in cultivating equanimity, in living with a gentler rhythm — a slower sense of time that allows for wonder. In feeling a quiet kinship with the universe, and recognizing, however faintly, that the atoms composing this body will carry on, scattered but not lost.

(11) Is the answer simply this: to know that its arrival is inevitable — that there is nothing we can do to stop it — and yet to live with a sense of grace, with equanimity, with a quiet dignity in the face of the unchangeable? Or are such notions merely a kind of romanticism — stories I tell myself to feel calmer, or to feel profound? Are they truths, or just beautifully worded comforts dressed in the language of wisdom? And if they are only comforts — does that make them any less worth holding?

(12) Is the answer, then, to live in the lowest vibrational state of being — calm, unperturbed, detached?

(13) When the answer comes, and when it is no longer just known, but fully internalized, I will have arrived. A state of quiet liberation, free from inner conflict. To reach such a state while still alive is to taste a rare peace: freedom from attachment, craving, and the restless machinery of desire. It is the soft cessation of psychological dissonance, a stillness not of resignation, but of understanding.

Ciao, and thanks for reading.